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By Les Barbanell

Many of us are answerable for caring for an getting older dad or mum, an unwell wife, or a handicapped baby and accomplish that out of affection, devotion, or legal responsibility, and so on have caretaking occupations within the parts of nursing, social paintings, counseling, and so forth. yet there are different much less benign caretakers in our midst. those humans have an over the top must be wanted, they usually imagine the caretaking function now not out of affection, legal responsibility, or selection of career yet as a result of subconscious motivations over which they've got little keep watch over. This habit to wonderful others should be as debilitating as substance addictions.

Les Barbanell exhibits that this habit, which he calls "caretaker character disorder," mask mental conflicts and will be a self-destructive strength resulting in exhaustion, vacancy, even suicide. Barbanell presents suggestions for studying to decline, retraining one's concentration from others to oneself, gaining freedom from earlier traumas and abuse, and studying to specific instead of repress emotions in an effort to discover a stability among kindness and a pathological point of selflessness. This ebook is a must-read for these struggling with the dependancy to thrill, their households, and psychotherapists and counselors who paintings with them.

Praise for Les Barbanell's Removing the masks of Kindness

"Barbanell delineates the pathological aspect of selflessness and argues, because the identify indicates, that kindness can function a mental mechanism for concealing emotional problems….The writer successfully charts the defining features of a heretofore-unrecognized diagnostic class: caretaker character sickness (CPD). …Recommended." -CHOICE

"Les Barbanell finds a brand new and stunning security mechanism that folks use to concealed mental conflicts. The caretaker character illness is helping clarify why an accommodating, sacrificing person, who's consistently occupied with others, can turn out depressing and feeling incomplete. A needs to learn for someone within the supporting professions."
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In graduate school she received an A in every course and her master’s thesis was published in a prestigious journal. She began a career as a personal trainer at a gym that she eventually owned. Three years after her initial purchase she formed a corporation that led to the ownership of five fitness centers that incorporated physical therapy and rehabilitation programs. Her hobbies included ballroom dancing and poetry writing. She won several dance competitions on a national level and several of her poems were published.

It is not uncommon for the effectiveness of the mask of athletic prowess to begin to erode when the athlete in question has a history of childhood neglect or abuse. The catalyst could also be a career threatening injury, diminished performance levels, or retirement on the horizon. On such occasions the athlete, no longer exposed to the cheers of adoring fans, is humbled. Suddenly, the arena is silent and the athlete’s illusion of invincibility dissipates. The rise above the crowd becomes an obscure memory and the former sports hero must now embrace the emotional turmoil that lies within .

He could not work and could not participate in sports. He was unable to concentrate and 41 CHAPTER 3 could not write. He was in no mood to sing or dance and was unable to listen to music, another one of his passions. He spiraled down into a deep depression and made a near fatal suicide attempt. What happened to Superman? Clark’s “kryptonite,” his injury, decimated all his masks in one fell swoop. He had insights into his caretaker issues, and his work on himself in and out of therapy was helping him achieve a more balanced give-receive interaction with others.

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